Lesson 10: Invest in your friendships

toya-and-kids“Friendships don’t magically last forty years …you have to invest in them.”

-Carrie Bradshaw

Day 7, Lesson #10: 

So right now I’m binge watching Sex and the City… yes all the way back to the season 1 episodes from 1998! I just felt like I needed to catch up after randomly watching the reruns that come on E! from time to time. Is the show extremely relevant to my life? Not really, but I’d be a liar if I said I wasn’t amused! Carrie’s 30-something-years-old friends are my friends.  Plus, you know I love a good quote…and Carrie never fails! The more important take-away from each episode is Carrie’s desire to maintain her friendships while trying to figure out love and life.

For the past 8 years, my best friend and I have either lived in different places or been in different spaces of our lives. But through it all we still managed to be just as close as we were in high school. Toya was there to watch me graduate from college, helped me pack for my move and she has always been supportive as I was trying to find my way! When I don’t have the answer–she knows which way I should move. Do we disagree? Of course! I can even remember a phase where we didn’t talk to each other, but still spoke through our mothers (childish)…but that was still my best friend! I’ve watched her kids grow and managed to be apart of their lives even from afar (those are secretly my kids…she just gave birth to them).My family is her family and vice versa. Before my friends in college ever had the chance to meet Toya… you would’ve thought they knew her.  The moral of the story is that we’ve always made time to make our friendship last!

This year, I watched my best friend of 12 years prepare for graduation, celebrate her success as she walked across the stage and then celebrate again when she started her new job. PROUD is an understatement! I was ecstatic! My only thought was that I’m so glad we invested in our friendship and have always shared our most memorable moments!

Good friends are hard to come across…it’s no secret. As your finding your way with yor friends trust that you won’t always see eye to eye and your lives won’t always mirror one another, but that’s apart of the investment! This year I gained a greater appreciation for my friendships. There is something special about knowing that the people you call your friends will always be there to watch you fall and then ride shotgun when you’re chasing after your wildest dreams!

Take a page from Carrie’s book and always remember to invest in your friendships.


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