You win some and you lose some: 15 lessons I learned in 2015…


2015 is finally coming to a close and to celebrate the year, I decided to reflect on the top 15 lessons I learned.

15. Plan your goals…and speak them into existence… At the start of this year, I sat down to create my vision board and looking back, I definitely see how I’ve grown since January. When you set a clear plan, you have an idea of where you want to go…

14. Be thankful. There is always a reason to be grateful, even if it’s only for the breath in your body. Never take the simple things for granted.

13. Oprah said it best, “When you do well, when you do your best, people notice…” Humility is always a great asset in life… I’ve truly learned to Let my work speak for itself! The more I focus on working and not speaking about the work…I notice personal growth…I encourage you to keep working and pushing toward your goals! Trust that someone somewhere is watching as you move.

12. Seize the moment! Time does not stand still…and this year I learned from one of my mentors that you should always live like you know this is true!  Lesson learned…take control of your life in every aspect and stop waiting on things to happen.

11. Embrace the fact that seasons change and people grow apart. This was one of the hardest lessons I learned. Everyone won’t be happy when you succeed, including those you consider to be your friends. Everybody isn’t willing to grow with you and once this is revealed to you… accept the fact that it is time to let them go and grow without them.

10. When you see a metal stud…stop drilling! Random…but this was a huge lesson for me now that I live on my own! I was determined to get my curtains up…even if it meant drilling through metal! I later learned that was a NO-NO…and thankfully my building didn’t collapse. I am pleased to share that I have curtains and several pictures hanging now! The BIGGER picture here, is that when you hit a brick wall in life…don’t keep running blindly in the same direction. STOP…THINK ON IT…AND CREATE A PLAN…There’s always a way, it just may not be the one you started with!

9. You win some, you lose some…but when you take a chance… You never really fail. Try, try, and try again. As a child, I always heard “if at first you don’t succeed… Try, try and try again!” Never did I think that I would have to repeat this to myself several times as an adult…but this year this quote kept me going! I learned to encourage myself in the face of adversity, even if that means reciting quotes from my childhood. No matter how old you get, you will always be faced with a challenge and you will always reach a point when you are discouraged… I encourage you to keep trying until you succeed… Remember, it is working for your good.

8. Not everything you think you want deserves you… One of the hardest lessons for me this year, was to stop being so disappointed every time something I wanted didn’t work out. Remember that some jobs aren’t for you, some people aren’t for you, and some situations just aren’t meant for your life. End of story..

7. No two breakthroughs look alike… When life looks a mess, sometimes you’re being prepared for your breakthrough. Eventually you have to trust that it is all working for your good! This year I watched a lot of people succeed in different areas of life..I’ve witnessed friends getting married, graduating from grad school and moving in their careers…and sometimes paying to much attention to the lives of others will have you looking at yours crazy! “No two breakthroughs look alike” was big and bold on my vision board and I had to repeat it several times until I started believing it! Your struggle doesn’t look like everyone else’s so your breakthrough isn’t supposed to look like their’s either!

6. Eat when it’s time to eat. And move along when it’s time to move along. In other words…know when it’s time to move on from one venture and take on a new one…change is always good!

5. Pick a horse and ride it… If you know me, you know this was my favorite line for 2015! What’s funny is that it was on my sister’s vision board and not mine! This year I’ve learned that in order to expand my happiness, I must be open to the many possibilities available…and decide which one I’m going to focus on! I encourage you to figure out what it is that you want for your life and go for it!

4. Smile with the rising sun… Each day is a new blessing and a new chance to make things right. This year I learned to stop complaining about things and rejoice in the small victories!

3. To NEVER stop dreaming… I read The Alchemist earlier this year and the central theme was to never give up on your heart’s greatest desire. I loved it and I’ve read the book twice this year and recommended it to several people. Your heart knows what you really want…and if you don’t chase your dreams…they will always tug on your  heart!

2. Live in the moment…If you always focus on what you think should be, you’ll miss the chance to enjoy the moment you’re living in. When I wrote the post titled I hope you dance, I was accepting that to enjoy life’s greatest blessings you have to live in that moment. When you focus too far ahead, you’re sometimes faced with fear or worry. If you ever struggle with– this Listen to LeAnn Womack’s song, the words will serve as some guidance.

1. He always has a plan…ALWAYS…even when you can’t see it clearly. I was introduced to my favorite bible verse years ago by Dr. Sanders ( my mentor’s dad)… Once I finished performing, he recited Jeremiah 29:11 to me and told me to always remember there is a plan for my life. I’ve carried that verse with me since and it has never led me astray. My personal plans may have not panned out exactly how I thought they were supposed to this year, but they worked according to His will. Sometimes God has a bigger plan in store than what we can ever imagine…and this year he has definitely brought a few surprises my way. The top lesson wasn’t learned in 2015, but it was reinforced. This year I needed to be reminded that God always has a plan even when you can’t see it…sometimes you have to surrender and watch the plan unfold.

The end of 2015 is near, but 2016 is surely on the way…ready or not! Reflect on what you have learned throughout the year, share and prepare for the year that is on the way!

Here’s to 2016, laying out a vision, BUT also living in the moment and accepting all the plans God has for your life…even if it’s not what you imagined. Pray, believe and lean not on your own understanding!



One response to “You win some and you lose some: 15 lessons I learned in 2015…”

  1. Great Job! Let Go 2016🙌🏾

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